heart. I know I’m eating healthy and exercising and the muscle is the reason for the weight gain but her constant comments make me feel so awful. Today I mentioned that my hips looked different when I tried on an old dress and she blamed it on “too much snacking, you’re getting fat.” I don’t know what to do, Risa. Can you just give me some encouraging words that’ll make me smile, please? Thank you <3

Honestly, dear? I’m concerned that your mother is putting your health in critical danger. For your height, anything under 105lbs falls into the “underweight” category. Although there are exceptions to the rule, most people are in a dangerous zone to go this low. Your mother can be charged with child neglect or endangerment by putting your health at such a risk and doing everything in her power to not only prevent you from attaining a healthy weight but to discourage you from forming a healthy weight and body image. I would consult a doctor immediately about your weight to make sure that they feel you’re okay. You may also want to have the doctor explain to your mom that, at your height, anything between 105lbs and 135lbs is perfectly fine for you.

Stay strong, my dear. You won’t always be under your mother’s controlling grasp. One day you’ll have full control over your health decisions, and you’ll get to show her that you’re stronger than should could have ever imagined. Just keep pushing knowing that it’s your body, not hers. You’re the one who’s gotta live in it, so you gotta love it. What she thinks doesn’t mean a thing against how wonderful you are.